I’m taking on a topic that’s far too big for li’l ol’ me to handle. I know that. But I went to the doctor the other day and now I’m mad. See, I was struck by the fact that there are entire industries built on the assumption that everyone will be sexually active outside of marriage.
That assumption is so pervasive that parents don’t even question it. We worry about our kids and want what’s best for them. But the lessons they learn are about preventing cancer, developing healthy attitudes, waiting until they’re “ready”, and being in a “safe” relationship. What we teach gets watered down to simply helping them avoid bad consequences and complications. The root of the issue is never even considered.
I propose a different approach. Sexuality is better than that. It’s so good that, as parents, we need to be ready to talk about it with our kids of every age. And we need to give them better reasons to keep sexual love within marriage than just avoiding potential diseases or having children before they are ready to raise them in a faithful home.
Instead, we can teach them that God designed sexual expressions of love to be part of the covenant of marriage. It’s meant to be treasured. It’s meant to be enjoyed completely, with no worries about consequences. When we teach our children about God’s plan for human sexuality, we are giving them ways to show their faith in Christ in action.
If you’re looking for some books to help you start the conversation, I recommend the Learning About Sex series from Concordia Publishing House. There are books for every age from preschool to adult, with age-appropriate information. We’ve found these books to be very helpful in our family. They’re a great way to get the conversation started, and to keep it going through each child’s growing-up years.